Thursday, February 5, 2015

First Post Oh Dear

I hereby declare the existence of my blog about being a trans man and my transition along answering questions people may have about anything related to male transgenders.
I'm really hoping that this blog will hopefully help people and encourage other trans men and women to come out and just flaunt who you are.  Although I won't be talking much about trans women since I have no experience with it and therefore have no place in talking about the technicalities of it and how it's like.  I'd also love to educate people about being trans and what it's like because I realize that there are a lot of misconceptions about it and it's a very hush hush topic.
NOW, time for the actual blog entry.

Hello people!  My name is Morgan and I am a proud trans man.  Just two months ago (December 2014) I came out as transgender to my parents.  My friends and a few teachers didn't know up until a few months before my parents so this is really new to everyone, including myself.  My parents' response was less than impressive-awkward pauses, silence, and then trying to convince me out of it.  My friends and teachers were completely supportive of me and my preferences and I can't thank them enough for that. 

But, lets talk about how it felt to come out.
Coming out was probably one of the most uncomfortable things I think I've ever done.  Even though you know your friends aren't going to be opposed to it you're still terrified to be like "Hey guys I'm actually a dude." 
I think everyone I told gave me the three or so seconds of looking at me and just letting themselves shatter all previous notions about me and attempting to absorb this new information. 
And that's not even the hard part.  When people know you're trans and use the wrong pronouns they just look at you with eternal dread like they just ran your cat over with their lawnmower.  And then they correct themselves and it's really uncomfortable because they say it like a question- "he...?" and then you say yes and try to forget it ever happened. 
And it's even worse if you're around people who don't know and your friend says the pronouns you prefer and everyone thinks your friend is mentally incompetent or you're trans.  High school students aren't the most 'accepting' crowd ever guys. 

My parents aren't supportive of my decision.  Mom tries to talk me out of it but tends to just avoid the topic in general.  My father hasn't said one thing about it since I came out two months ago, and when I ask my Mother to help me transition (buying a binder, shorter hair, ect) she's very quick to say "No."
So when college rolls around I'm going to transition on my own, hopefully start up on hormone therapy and hopefully I won't score the "Most Disappointing Child" award.

Also if you guys want to ask me questions about being trans, passing (I don't know a whole lot about this but I can try), or really anything at all just ask!
I don't know if this site offers that type of thing or a commenting system or something but I'll figure it out (This is such a 'Grandpa's first computer' moment)

4 comments:

  1. Hello,
    I am also new to this whole 'blog' site, but I would like to know more about people who are transgender since I don't really know much about the topic.
    So what I would like to know, is being transgender a preferred gender orientation and a gender identity?

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    1. Welcome to blogspot!
      And no worries, any question you have is fine as long as you ask it in a respectful manner I will not take it offensively!
      And it's a gender identity. Being transgender is associated with Gender Identity Disorder and it's really when you 'feel' one gender, but your body says otherwise. It typically isn't something we (generalizing transgenders, I'm sure they aren't all like this) choose but more something that happens to us that we can't help.
      I hope that answered your question!

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    2. It did! I appreciate your reply.
      I think I am more educated and I find this interesting. :)

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    3. I'm glad! And you're very welcome.

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